My dad is having a really hard time understanding what I am going through with my depression. He keeps saying things that make me feel worse, and gets really angry and frustrated when I'm having a hard time and start snapping at my family (which I always feel horrible about, regardless). He really loves me and cares about me, but I feel like he can't quite grasp that I'm not just sad.
AnonymousI can relate to this. I know how hard this is for you. Have you spoken to him about how you are feeling? Maybe writing down your thoughts or finding some information on your illness may help? It’s important that the people around you feel like part of the solution rather than a problem - but that is very difficult to obtain. It requires slot of patience from both sides.
The important thing here is your recovery. If this is holding you back then it needs to be dealt with as soon as possible.
Be honest about how you feel. Try and educate your loved ones so that they can begin to support you.
Helen xxx
so i have lots of "good"friends, ive always have, we always hang out together everywhere. But nowadays when we're all older, everybody talks shit about everyone, SERIOUSLY. I feel so depressed when theyre so two faced. Everynight i cry myself to sleep and wake up to that same lie. they are only there for me when i have something going on in my life thay can talk about:( I dont know what tp dp
AnonymousIt’s hard to know who to trust, I know..but not everyone is bad. I know you probably feel isolated as well as sad - but not everyone is out to get you. There are people who do care and understand.
Your priority at this moment in time is you. Do what is best for you, not for the sake if others. Everyone’s got an opinion, but that doesn’t mean you have to take them on board. Most of the time they are quite uneducated anyway and won’t help you at all.
Focus on what YOU think is right and keep moving forward. As frustrated as you get, keep that chin up and go your own way.
Helen cxx
Ive gained some weight about 30 pounds recently. Idk, i just feel gross, like thats the reason no guys like me. On top of that i feel ugly and i need help. Ive quit cutting but my urge is getting the best of me and i tried to kill myself. Obviously it didnt work and please help. I just want to lose weight, ill probably feel prettier and be prettier help
AnonymousYour confidence has obviously taken a beating recently, and it’s important that you get back on track. If you really feel bad about your weight - go about losing it the healthy way. Do not harm yourself. You are beautiful, I have no doubt about that - the issue you need to confront is how you feel about yourself.
Try pampering yourself a bit. Do your nails and your hair, have a soak in a fruity bubble bath / make yourself feel clean and healthy. Vitamins, fruit and veg, exercise. As soon as you start working towards the sooner you will start to feel more confident.
Try not to be so hard on yourself my love.
Helen xxx
Hi! Im dealing with depression and a avoidant personality disorder. My avoidant behaviour has influence on mostly every part of my life. Im afraid I´ll never be able to have a normal Job again and loos my wife. Im trying so hard to motivate myself and not beeing anxious all the time. I do things that might include negative consequences but are existentially necessary, but it never seems to get better. I hope that it gets better with every step I make but it doesnt. And Im getting tired of trying
AnonymousOh honey I know how this feels, but you are taking positive steps to recover and that is what matters. You know what is important to you and how you feel, and as exhausting as it is, you’re on the right path. You’re a good person and you deserve to feel better - so don’t you be giving up. All of this will be worth it. The pain will make you stronger and wiser.
Helen xxx
I told myself that I'd try to be more positive, but it's really hard. Some people are really pushing it.
AnonymousThat’s usually the way it works unfortunately - but you stick at it. Don’t let them stop you in your tracks.
You do this for YOU. Nobody else.
Helen xxx
Recovery takes time.
Move at your own pace, try not to put too much pressure on yourself.
You will get there.
Helen xxx
I really need some advice, I have a boyfriend who is diagnosed with bipolar and depression and last night told me that he plans on committing suicide, whether it be in a few days,months, or years- but either way he's still going to do it. I begged and cried to him to just stop saying such things. He told me he'd call me this morning and I have not heard from him. I'm worried sick. I can't keep continuing to worry this badly. I don't know what to do it's making me sick.
AnonymousOk, try and stay calm.
Try and remember that at the moment he doesn’t have much control over what he is saying. He is clearly quite desperate - and he needs to get help. Is he getting any help? Or treatment of any kind?
The only thing you can do is keep being supportive of him - make him realise how important he is. There are crisis teams he can talk to, mental health charities. He has to do all that is necessary to get better.
Helen xxx
I don't know what happened to me. Bad things happen lately. People around me said that it was me being spoiled brat. My head is blank. I got nightmares every time I sleep or just taking a nap. I've stopped cutting my wrist since some months a go, but now I cut again and feel secure of it. I'm addicted to cut myself. it's wrong but I can't stop. what should I do?
You are going through a difficult time and need a bit if extra help, that’s all. This happens to do many people, and it’s very confusing and scary at first - but there is a lot of help available to you. You should think about talking to someone about how you are feeling. You can’t be expected to handle this all on your own. Get the support and treatment you deserve. Things will soon start to pick up.
Helen xxx
